Flowers for a wedding

Whatever strikes your fancy on your big day, there will always be flowers of different types and colours to suit your needs. My personal favourites are roses, chrysanthemums and orchids.

The main things that usually require the use of flowers are table centrepieces, the wedding dais and the bridal room. If you do like lots of flowers, pick two or three colours and stick with that or else it starts looking a little out of control.

In the photos below, white and yellow flowers, regardless of type, were used throughout the house, from the bridal room to the staircase and even the storage racks. Both real and artificial flowers were used in this instance and you can see how it transforms a normal house to an abode worthy of a princess.

Dare to experiment and DIY if you can afford to. You might just like what turns out. After my cousins and I had done the bed frame, we were asked to prepare table centrepieces for a wedding reception a month later. Check them out:

Photos Copyright © 2009 Ekaterina Edham

Malay Weddings - Part 2

Following up on my previous post, this section will explain the engagement ceremony (pertunangan), the solemnisation ceremony (akad nikah) and the wedding reception (Walimatul urus).

Pertunangan (Engagement)

The engagement ceremony is usually done right after the meminang and involves both parties exchanging gifts. Gifts are given in odd numbers and the lady's side usually gives more than the gentleman's side. From the gentleman, the lady will usually receive a tepak sirih, the engagement ring, a set of clothes or sufficient material to make a set for the wedding, a cake, some fruits and sweets. The lady will reply with a sirih junjung, clothing or material for him, songket, a songkok, a cake, fruits, sweets and potpourri. Other things people may give each other include shoes, jewelry and a shawl for the lady. Usually, if the bride-to-be's elder sister is yet to be married, she will also receive a gift from the groom-to-be. In addition to that, the wang hantaran, which is not compulsory but is a tradition of the Malays, is also given during the ceremony. This is the money which will be used for the wedding preparations by the future bride's family.

Akad nikah (Solemnisation ceremony)

This part of the wedding is purely religious. Without this part of the wedding, the gentleman and the lady will not be considered to be married in the eyes of God. The solemnisation happens after the groom has given the bride her gifts, her dowry and the wang hantaran, all of which are mutually agreed upon by both parties. The bride's wali (guardian, usually her father or another close male relative on her father's side) will formally give his daughter away and the groom will accept without interruptions from other parties. The formal witnesses present with then accept the vows from both sides. Once that is done, the groom will invalidate his wudhu' (partial ablutions) by placing the wedding ring on her finger thus making physical contact. This is usually a photo opportunity and more often than not, the groom has to hold the pose of kissing his bride's forehead until the lightbulb flashes subside. The bride and groom will then perform a prayer thanking the Almighty for His blessings.

Walimatul urus (Wedding reception)

This part of the ceremony is usually an announcement of the marriage between a lady and her gentleman. Friends and relatives bless the bridal couple on the wedding dais (pelamin) in a ceremony called menepung tawar by sprinkling rose water, flowers, popped corn and betel on the couple. After that, the family matriarch is then called upon to baling ambor-ambor, the throwing of sweets or small change for the benefit of the young (and young-at-heart) attendees of the reception. The bridal couple then adjourn to the banquet table to eat with their friends and family.

Malay Weddings - Part 1

Being from a family originally from Muar in Johor, our wedding ceremonies have retained some of the aspects and traditions of a Muar Malay Muslim wedding.

Merisik

A Malay wedding begins with merisik (loosely translated as spying but usually means gathering intelligence on the prospective bride) where the gentleman's family sends a representative over to the lady's abode on the pretense of making a courtesy call. If the lady in question is already spoken for, then the representative then visits the next potential candidate on the list. However, if she is available then the representative will then notify the gentleman and he can decide whether or not to proceed with an offer of marriage otherwise known as, meminang.

Meminang

Once the gentleman has decided that he would like to marry the lady in question, he then sends the representative back to the lady's family to formally offer himself as a potential husband for their daughter. It is up to the lady alone to accept or reject his offer (pinangan). The gentleman and lady are allowed to meet to discuss a possible future together, in the presence of their chaperones (his mother OR her father but never both together). If his efforts are successful, he will have brought a gift and an item to signify their engagement, usually an engagement ring (cincin tunang). This will then let everyone know that they are to be wed within a specified time period, mutually agreed upon by their families. It is also during this time that the dowry (mas kahwin), bridal gifts (hantaran), the solemnisation ceremony (akad nikah) and the wedding reception (Walimatul urus) are discussed.

Coming up next: Tunang (engagement), Akad Nikah (solemnisation) and Walimatulurus (wedding reception)

Welcome!

Welcome to LIBST. My name is Katie and this blog is to showcase gorgeous bridal ideas plus hopefully, highlighting some awesome bridal vendors from Malaysia. I will try to highlight different wedding traditions from around the country as well. Thanks for stopping by and I hope you will enjoy my blog.